K1 Visa Process: Medical Examination at St. Lukes Extension Clinic-Manila

So, the status of our case was updated to "Ready" June 28, 2018, so I decided to do my medical examination by July 5 & 6.

For some people, they wanted to wait for the physical copy of their letter from NVC and/ eligibility letter from the US Embassy before proceeding to anything, but most people in the Facebook group that I belong to, with people processing K1 visa, they said as soon as the status gets "ready" you can already start with your medical examination.

Before proceeding to St.  Lukes,  I pre-registered online first.  Remember,  medical examination is still a first come,  first serve basis.  Pre-registration is for you to save time filling out the form when you get there.

St.  Luke's Extension Clinic's website is http://www.slec.ph/us/registration/

Their physical address is at: 1177 J.  Bacobo St.  Ermita Manila.


Effective October 1, 2017, St. Luke's Medical Center Extension Clinic (SLEC), the Embassy's accredited panel physician, will begin charging a new medical examination fee:

17,025.00 PHP for adult immigrant visa applicants ages 15 and above
and
9,583.00 PHP for children ages 14 and below.

The requirements I brought with me are:

1. Filled out registration form
2. Payment- they only accept cash payment
3. 4 pcs.  of 2x2 picture. Write your full name at the back
4. Passport
5. Photocopy of passport biopage
6. Ballpen
7. Screenshot of NVC status "ready"- in my case,  since I haven't received my NVC letter and eligibility letter yet,  I printed out the ready status,  because of this,  they made me sign a waiver that says I am willing to proceed with my medical exam without the NVC letter,  and that I am sure that my NVC number was correct.  If you will do the same,  make sure your NVC number is indeed correct.

So,  my chosen date to do my medical exam is July 5 & 6. That is Thursday and Friday.  Since I lived in Antipolo,  Rizal,  and I don't want to hassle or stress myself out from the long commute,  I decided to just book a room to a nearby hotel,  and checked in From July 4-5. I booked at Hotel Soriente where it is 2000 peso+ per night (couldn't remember the exact amount)  Hotel Soriente is literally few steps away from SLEC. 

Morning of July 5, left the hotel few mins.  before 6am.  When I got there,  only few people outside were in line.  Mostly were already inside.  

You will hand all your requirements to the guard on duty,  he will check them,  and give you a number.  You will then wait at the reception. When your number is called,  go to the corresponding window that called your number. 

The lady who got my requirements asked me if I don't have the NVC letter or eligibility letter yet.  I said I don't have any of them yet.  She asked if I am sure that the NVC number printed on my screenshot is really ours,  and is correct,  so I said yes.  I was confident about it because when I called NVC,  I repeated it to the guy I talked to.  Anyway,  she asked me to sign a waiver, took a photo of me and finger scanning.  Then after that,  she asked me to proceed at the cashier to pay.

After paying,  the personnel at the cashier will ask you to go somewhere to begin the medical exam.  Well,  I said "somewhere" because it will be different for each person,  as they try to distribute the people on each section/ floors equally so that it won't be crowded.

I can no longer remember the sequence of the medical exam on which comes first.  The only tip I can give you is always listen.  Listen where they will ask you to go,  and listen for your name to be called.

When you reach the x-ray test,  remember to breathe deeply before releasing.  This is one of the things I feared ( aside from all the needles)  because they said that sometimes,  even though you don't have a history of TB or any ailments which involve the lungs,  if they see even a small spot,  they will let you undergo a sputum exam,  which will delay your visa process because you need to wait for 2 months for the process to be done.

Other tests are physical test ( urine and blood sample),  immunization interview, etc.

I finished the exam on the first day at around 11 am.  The lady at the reception then told me to go back the following day at 9am "for immunization" usually,  they won't say this.  They will just ask you to go back for the result (either immunization or for sputum)  that's why when I heard her say for immunization,  natuwa ako ng bonga.  Hahaha.

I went back at 7:45 the following day.  Excited lang.  Haha.  Eventhough 9 am pa ang sinabi sa akin,  they will still entertain you.  So I advise you to just do the same to finish early.  So I showed my receipt sa guard,  then tinatakan nya ng for immunization.  So I proceed to the 2nd floor,  gave my receipt sa reception dun,  and waited for my name to be called.

The person who will give the immunization called our name by batch.  I received 4 freakin shot.  (Flu, mumps, chicken pox and anti TB) Pero I keep on telling myself,  4 injections are still better than sputum.

After ng immunization, proceed ka na sa 1st floor to wait for the result. When they give you the result, they will explain to you alin any dadalhin sa interview, at alin any dadalhin dito sa US. After nun, I went back to the hotel, with a big smile on my face, and a grateful heart to the Lord.

Our K1 Francee Visa Process(From Philippines to U. S. A

Yesterday is my first month here in the U.S and this is a long overdue post about our K1 / fiance visa process. Just sharing this in case you, or someone you know is interested on filling this kind of petition.

While you and your fiance are still on cloud 9 about "the proposal" you should now consider gathering all the necessary documents and forms needed to file the petition.

November 6, 2017- Bob, my fiance from the US sent our visa packet to USCIS. Make sure that in this packet, you will send all the necessary documents for a quicker approval. If the documents your American Citizen fiance sent is incomplete, you will receive an RFE (Request for Evidence) which will lead to slower approval/update.

Here are the documents/ requirements that we sent:

1. Filled up Form I-129F, and form G-1145. You can download/print both of them here: USCIS Forms
2. Cover letter. You can find sample of this online.
3. $535 check for filling fee
4. Petitioner's birth certificate (as proof of his Citizenship)
5. Petitioner's and beneficiary's letter of intent to marry. (Sample online)
6. Beneficiary's passport biopage
7. Petitioner's and beneficiary's 2x2 US passport photo
8. Divorce decree for all the past marriages of the petitioner.
9. Proof of having met in person- photos, photos with beneficiary's family, boarding pass, hotel bookings, gifts, restaurant invoices, etc.
10. Emails, chatlogs- we already included this in the packet, but some people just bring it upon interview
11. ** If the petitioner has previous case/convictions, Certified copies of police & court convictions, in compliance with IMBRA (we didn't send this one because it is not applicable in our case)

Use fastener that can easily be detached and DO NOT use binders that are hard to detach in putting these all together. And put a label at the bottom so that they can easily locate the papers.

Send the packet to:

For U.S. Postal Service (USPS):

USCIS

P.O. Box 660151

Dallas, TX 75266

For FedEx, UPS, and DHL deliveries:

USCIS

Attn: I-129F

2501 South State Highway 121 Business

Suite 400

Lewisville, TX 75067

This is our packet

Few days after sending our packet, my fiance received the NOA1 (Notice of Action 1) through email. This notice is just a notice to let you know they have received the packet.

After this, comes the waiting game. Before, it usually takes 4- 6 months before the petitioner hears an update (approval/ RFE or denial) but now, it usually take 6-9 months already. Our approval took us almost 7 months.

BTW, you can track the progress of your case, by downloading a USCIS app or directly through their website.

Here is how I track ours through the app:

After 200+ days of waiting, our case was approved on May 31st 2018. (yaaaay, finaaaallly!!!!) It was approved without RFE, the help of a lawyer or agency!

 I just knew about it when I checked the app and it says in the case detail that our case was approved last May 31, though I checked the app June 2 already. 

At this stage, your fiance must then receive the NOA2 (Notice of Action 2) It is both an email and a hard copy stating the case was approved. I also started to gather the documents needed for the interview at this stage, like birth certificate, my CENOMAR and NBI clearance. The most recent copy you have during the interview, the better.

After NOA2 (case approved) wait for 10-15 business days and you can start calling the National Visa Center for your Manila Case Number. 

• NVC contact number is (603) 334-0700 you can call them Monday through Friday from 7:00 a.m. EST to 12:00 midnight EST. You need to prepare the petitioner's and beneficiary's full name and birthdate, Receipt #: starts with WAC1234567890 and the date of approval. Since my fiance is travelling cross country during this time, I called the NVC myself, for free, by downloading hangouts dialler on google play app store.

If you got the case number which starts with MNL followed by 10 digit numbers. You can check it at: ceac.state.gov/ceacstattracker/status.aspx Click immigrant and enter the case number. 

After checking your status. Make sure the status of your visa is: 

• AT NVC - meaning your case still sitting at their office 

• IN TRANSIT - meaning your case is on the way to United States Embassy in the PH 

• READY - your case is already received and ready for interview at USEM. 

You can start paying your visa fee at Bank of the Philippine Islands when the status says "READY".

Bring your printed MRV Slip together with your passport and money. 

Print your MRV Slip: http://www.ustraveldocs.com/ph/pmisdepositslip.htm?amount=265&country=philippines  

Visa Fee is $265 converted in to Philippines Peso. Cut off of payments is 2PM (PH Time) Wait for 4-6hrs to validate your receipt. Sometimes it takes longer, just be patient. 

While waiting for you interview you can can accomplish the DS160 here: https://ceac.state.gov/GenNIV/Default.aspx . DS160 is an online form that you should fill up before the interview date. Print the page that contains the barcode and BRING it on your interview.

Schedule your interview here: https://cgifederal.secure.force.com/ ( I will be posting a separate article regarding my Philippine U.S Embassy interview)

If you are done scheduling your interview you can pre- register your medical at: http://www.slec.ph/us/registration/  Medical fee will be in PESO – Cash. You should pass the medical examination first before the interview because you will need to bring the medical result at your interview. Make sure to schedule your medical at least 2 weeks before the interview date. ( I will be posting a separate article regarding my experience in my medical exam)

Finally, before you leave, you should attend a GCP Seminar at a CFO office near you. For your CFO Seminar set your appointment at: http://gcp-appointment.cfo.gov.ph/ remember that no more walk in allowed at CFO. Remember to be at your chosen CFO center at least 1 hour before your schedule.

Let's all help each other close the distance. I hope this helps, if you have questions, don't hesitate to write it down on the comments section, or send  me an email at aissa.deguia@gmail.com. As long as I know the answer to your questions, I will try my best to help out.

“In true love the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged.” – Hands Nouwens

Love is Worth the Wait

Last year,  February 14,2017- Valentines day.  One of the most exciting,  fun time of the year,  especially for young,  in love couples.  People would often say that Valentine's is not just for lovers,  but for everyone you love.  Which is true!  But,  when you are unattached,  and you see posts on social media, of the gifts they receive,  and how they celebrated this day,  or sweet couples everywhere, you might feel a little sad for yourself.  Trust me,  I know the feeling,  and I understand how annoying it can sometimes get.

A lot of years have passed,  when I don't even notice this day,  and it's completely okay.  But, last year was different.  I felt sad,  and jealous even.  I asked God,what was wrong with me,  why doesn't anybody love me the way I wanted?  Why is there a lot of people who found love,  and why can't I?  Am I a bad person who is so hard to love? Am I not worth it.  Not enough?  (Kulang na lang itanong ko,  "pangit ba 'ko,  kapalit-palit ba ko? " which I did not dare ask,  takot ko lng na masagot ako ng "oo! ")   I had all  these questions,  but I couldn't find the answers.

From that day onwards,  I just found myself drifting away from my relationship with God.  I stopped praying and going to church. It lasted for almost a month.  I felt like a spoiled brat who wanted something from her faher,  and when I couldn't receive it,  I threw tantrums and sulk in darkness.

I just realized one day that happiness cannot be found if you are not happy with yourself,  and love cannot be shared without loving yourself first.

After that realization,  I asked God for forgiveness,  and started to be "me" again.  That's when I started to get serious in praying,  not just for a lover,  but for a partner,  a team mate,  a confidant,  a best friend all rolled into one person . I told God,  "He doesn't have to be perfect,  he just have to be real" Then it was on the last week of March,  when I started to communicate with this man online,  at that time,  I have actually gave up on online dating.  But his messages are actually something someone can't ignore. One day I just heard "someone" whisper in my head ( and heart)  "give it another try".  So I trusted my gut, and that small voice inside me.

Up to this time,  I never really thought we will come this far.

For all of you who are still waiting to find true love,  whatever your age is,  or your gender is,  always remember,  if you want something so bad,  don't ever give up.  Always pray and ask God whatever your heart desires. Be specific, but  realistic. Set your goals.  You should first ask yourself,  what is your real priority ba?  Is it to find love,  or a nice job,  or be a millionare.  From there,  have faith that God will grant you the thing(s)  you've been praying for in His timing,  not yours.

Keep on praying,  no matter how long it takes. And,  while waiting,  have fun and enjoy every minute of your life,  travel alone,  spend time with friends and family,  make everyday special,  make everyday a Valentine's day.  Time will come,  and you won't even notice,  your prayers will be answered one by one.  Sometimes,  it can be more than what you have asked for.  More than what you even deserve.

It's true that God answers all our prayers in two different ways.  It's either a yes,  or "I have something better planned for you. " You just have to listen carefully on what he wants you to do,  and always pray faithfully.  Afterall,  I also believe that God knows our hearts,  he already know what we want to pray for,  we just need to show Him how much we trust Him,  by continuing to pray,  even though at times,  it seems impossible.  All we need to do is believe. ❤

Corrigidor Island- Revisiting History

Corrigidor Island is one of the many places I always wanted to go to.

Last November 17,2018, I went there with Bob,  and we're on to an interesting,  and educational journey.

Here are some photos from our trip:

Sun cruise's boat to and from Corregidor

Seaside boat terminal

Breathtaking view

Sun cruise's tram that visitors use to get around the area

One of the many tanks they used during the war

One of the cartridge rooms

One of the soldier barracks

Lorcha Dock- where Mc Arthur departed from

Additional 200 pesos if you want to go inside the tunnel and watch the show

Inside Malinta tunnel

Corrigidor Island, locally called Isla ng Corregidor, is an island located at the entrance of Manila Bay in southwestern part of Luzon Island in the Philippines. Due to this location, Corregidor has historically been fortified with coastal artillery to defend the entrance of Manila Bay and Manila from attacks by enemy warships. Located 48 kilometres (30 mi) inland, Manila has been the largest city and the most important seaport in the Philippines for centuries, from the colonial rule of Spain, Japan and the United States, to the establishment of the Philippines in 1946.- Wikepedia

Our Tour was booked through Expedia and the local agency who handled the booking here is Baron Travels. 

We also opted to be picked up by their service,  at the hotel where we stayed,  to the seaside terminal and back. Kudos to their friendly manong driver Mr.  Oswlad. 

But, what you can do is book directly to Sun Cruise's site.  Although,  online booking at their site is currently under maintenance,  you can directly book your tour by calling them. 

For more photos of our tour,  you can view them here: Corrigidor 2017

Love Knows No Boundaries

After staying single, for the past 2 years or so,  I started online dating again sometime in February 2017.

I almost gave up hope,  when all I came across online with,  are either attached guys who are just bored, immature guys who just wants to see your body on Skype( nothing much to see in my case 😀😂😀) and lots and lots of scammers!

Until, came April, I received a message from a member named Bob.  His first message was; " I am out of your preferred age range,  but I can't resist sending you a message because of your beautiful smile. Would you still care to chat? "

I look at his profile and read the description he has written. Took me days to answer back,  not because he is out of my preferred age range,  but because I felt like he is someone who takes you seriously,  and I wanted to be sure that I can do the same for him.  It's like I don't want to invest my time ( and feelings)  with someone again,  then realize I just wasted it in the end.

So when I started to reply to his messages,  we started exchanging emails,  and moved to Skype.  After few months,  he decided it was time for the first visit! How exciting!

Below is a video of our first 3 weeks together (Update: IDK why the first photo was upside down.  Tried everything to fix it but won't work.  😂😂😂)

Three weeks is not really enough. But I can sincerely say that,  those were the best days of my life. We got along well,  he never fails to show me he cares.  He always looks at me as if I am the needest thing since slice bread.  Hahaha.

Whenever we are together, we always come across people who still tend to judge when they see us together. I know most of the time,  they are thinking about our huge age difference.  Or maybe,  they are thinking,  is it just about the money?  Or the Green Card? And I can tell them straight to their faces that it is pure love. Love that was developed across the miles,  which we are planning to close the distance soonest. Sometimes,  it is really hard to believe that someone is happy and inlove because of the reasons only the two people involve understands and feels. I wish people can just be happy when they see someone happy. But,  one thing I learned from Bob though, is to not care too much what other people would think or say.  What we should care about is just each other, afterall,  it is our relationship,  and our lives.

I felt very lonely when he came back to the US, but I know that we will meet each other again,  very soon!

Being in a LDR is not easy.  It takes courage and strength. But if your other half keeps on showing you everyday they care, and love you,  nothing else matters.  As Bob would always tell me,  we are both worth it!

Let's Go to Taytay Tiangge!

I grew up living in Manila,  with mom,  sister and Aunt who likes scouting for pretty but not so expensive items. 

When I was young,  they would take me to Quiapo,  Divisoria and Greenhills. 

Few years back,  we moved to a city in Rizal province,  and that is when we discovered the tiangge (Bazaar)  in Taytay Rizal. Taytay is known as the "garments capital" of the Philippines,  that's why their prices are cheaper than divi and Greenhills,  becauase they are the direct suppliers. 

Since friends and relatives are asking about it,  I made a youtube video regarding our recent visit there. Do check it out! 

How to get there:

Cubao – take jeepney near Araneta center with Taytay, Angono signage, and alightat Mang Inasal and Greenwich at Club Manila East Taytay

Robinson’s Galleria – along Ortigas Ave. take G-Liner / RRCG bus with Taytay signage  and baba sa 7-11 beside Jollibee and just cross the street to where MCDonald’s is located and tiangge is just in front or pwede din baba sa MANG INASAL 

Quiapo – take G-Liner / RRCG bus with Taytay signage  and baba sa 7-11 beside Jollibee and just cross the street to where MCDonald’s is located and one of the tiangge is just in front. or pwede din baba sa MANG INASAL

Post Christmas R&R at Luljetta's Hanging Garden Spa

It is still my long vacation (till January 3) and yesterday, Dec. 28, I decided to visit Luljetta's Hanging Garden & Spa in Antipolo City, just a few mins. away from where I live.

Sa entrance pa lang, you will be greeted by friendly staff who will assist you on how to find the place. It is inside Loreland Resort, but you will easily find it upon arrival.

Then off to the locker room where you'll change your clothes, secure your things, and you will be given batik robes, towel and a cute basket to put your belongings to.

Then after that, you can start exploring the place, which resembles to some resorts in Bali. So far, Luljetta's is the first and only hanging garden here in the Philippines.

This is the package that I availed:

HANGING GARDENS RETREAT
5 Hours
PHP 1,150.00/person - adults
PHP 1,040.00/person - kids 12 years old and below, seniors with valid ID's
Inclusions:
Access to Hanging Gardens Facilities (Locker, Sauna, Dr. Fish Spa, Heated Jacuzzi, Hydro-massage Pool, Infinity Pools, Meditation Lounges).
Traditional bathrobe (batik) and towel for your use.
Snacks of Lemongrass Tea and Antipolo's Best Suman.


For the list of their Spa services and more info, visit their website at http\://www.bienvenidotours.com/luljettas-hanging-gardens-and-spa.html

Luljetta's Hanging Garden & Spa is recommended for people who wanted to relax, and unwind, with picturesque view, nice facilities, & friendly staff.

I'm sharing with you few of the many  pictures I took during my visit. For more of these pictures, you can follow me on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/icedeguia06

This is sooo good! Suman, manga at kasuy

Relaxing view

Infinity pool, with a nice view

Smile! Taken at the Zen lounge

They also have a movie lounge

Dr. Fish foot spa

Recipe of the Week: Breaded BBQ Chicken

I was unwell for almost a week, (since first week of September) and I've been craving for a lot of food to eat, but couldn't get myself to eat them. Now that I am back to my normal "matakaw" self, I was craving for chicken BBQ, but wanted something crunchy so I came up with this BBQed chicken that's breaded and deep fried.

Ingredients:
Store bought BBQ marinade
chicken (I used drumsticks only)
egg
flour
bread crumbs
oil for frying

Procedure:
1. Marinate the chicken to a BBQ sauce overnight, then let the chicken boil and simmer with the BBQ sauce and some water for 5-10 mins.
2. Take the chicken out of the pan and save the remaining BBQ sauce/marinade if you want to make a sauce after, for dipping
3. Let the chicken cool down a little, then dip each into flour, beaten egg and then bread crumbs
4. Deep fry
5. Enjoy with plain or garlic rice.

After boiling chicken in BBQ sauce

Coat chicken with Flour > egg > bread crumbs

Finished product. Yum!

The Joys & Rewards of Being a Furparent

Some people, especially those who are not into pets too much, find it funny when I say stuff like “My dogs are family” or when I say “I’ll do everything for my furbabies”

But it’s true. They are not just pets for me, but I treat them as my own babies. Few years back, I am not really a dog person, until one furbaby changed everything. Three years ago, the idea of owning a pet just snapped into my mind all of a sudden when I felt that I was all alone that time, and I thought to myself to get a puppy just so I’ll have a companion. I named her Felicia (taken from Shrek’s daughter’s name) I never expected that she would  take a big space in my heart, which I never regret of giving her.

My beautiful Felicia 

Being a first time furparent is not all fun, and there are some hardships as well, especially when she gets sick and I panicked! But I guess the bond and the love you have for your furbaby makes it easier to  overcome those hardships.

But nothing will ever compare to the joys she had brought me. We had a lot of good times together. She especially liked it when we have good, fun walks every afternoon after my work. She likes it when I cook special food for her and not just resort to dog food all the time. She loves belly rubs and sleeping beside me. We would watch late night teleseryes together, and she is my ever reliable alarm clock in the morning.I couldn’t ever imagine my life without her.

Shhh..someone is still sleeping :)

Now that Felicia is 3, our neighbor gave me a new puppy, whom I named Mallows. Her fur is as soft as marshmallows that’s why I gave her that name. At first, I felt like Felicia got jealous with the new member of our family, but I guess she is now slowly getting used to it.

My fluffy and cutie Mallows

It makes me happy to see them get along little by little. Whenever I look at them, all I can see is happiness and love, because that is what they never fail to give me each and everyday. Nothing but pure love. That kind of love where you’ll know that there is no pretentions. The happiness I feel when they welcome me home with wagging tails and sloppy kisses is really priceless.

Sometimes I almost forget about my own happiness thinking about their own, but it’s okay. I have my whole life ahead of me. I’ve already experienced a lot of things in my life. I have my work, my family and my friends, but I know they only have me. And what is sad is that they only live for a short period of time. That’s why I want to make sure that I will give them everything but the best in those short lives.


It is true, dogs may not be our whole life, but they make our lives whole. They have filled up that empty space in my life that I wasn’t even aware was empty. And until one had really loved a dog can they learn the true meaning of taking life easy, pausing and simply live life without limits.  More importantly, being a furparent will simply teach you to love without measure, and smile more each day.

Not Looking, But Praying

Often times, people think that if a woman is single, unattached, and never married, her life is lonely and boring. I used to think that way too, which led me to settling.

I am writing this now, to let all the single ladies know that it’s okay to be single. That not all people are meant to depend their happiness to others, when you know how to make yourself happy in your own way.

I meet different kinds of people often. Both in person and online. Friends would hook me up, some asks me to sign up to this new online dating sites, and one time, a friend even made a profile for me in one of those online dating sites!

I almost got married twice, with 2 different people whom I thought I love, and I can live forever with. In short, I settled. When I met the first one, I thought I was inlove and was willing to give up everything for him. I know he is not the ideal one, but I thought to myself, my heart can eventually learn to love and accept him for who he is. But because I am NOT really inlove, and maybe was just inlove with the idea of love and getting married, it was easier to change my mind to marry and let the relationship go.

Then few years after, I met the 2nd one, and made exactly the same mistakes I made with the first. Having known few women who are still single at their age, I was afraid to be like them. Not that I can see that they are unhappy or content, but I just had this idea that if you are single, you are lonely. So what happened is I grabbed every opportunity I had to meet someone, eventhough I know I am not really that inlove. When the 2nd guy proposed, (infront of my family!) I said yes, I told myself this is better than growing old alone. So, Again, I settled.

If there are few things I’ve learned from these two experiences, they are:

Do not settle for someone you think you don’t deserve, just because you don’t want to grow old alone, you’ll grab every opportunity just to have a lovelife. Settling can hurt both you and the other person’s feelings in the end, and it will just cause much complicated situations.

Do not get married for the wrong reasons. Some people get married because of financial reasons. Be practical they say. Some get married because of the fear of growing old alone. Some get married because their parents want them to. Some get married just for the sake of being married because of peer pressure, or your biological clock is ticking. Etc., etc. If you will decide to tie the knot with someone make sure the reason is LOVE.

Don’t be desperate on looking for love or rush into getting married just because society dictates it. If they don’t contribute to your happiness, why the hell will you value their opinion? It’s your life. Live it the way you wanted to.

I’ve learned about myself more on what I really like. So, next time, in God’s perfect timing, if He will allow my path crossed with someone, I’ll make sure that I really like and love the guy, and avoid settling. If I think I am not really inlove, I’d rather stay single and happy, than be with the wrong one, and suffer.

And then, I’ve learned to love and appreciate myself more. I’ve realized that I am enough. I’ve realized that I can be happy even without someone. I loved the freedom, to do the things that I wanted without thinking of hurting anybody or of anybody’s opinion on what to do or what I wanted to do with my life. I love the feeling of being independent, of doing things on my own because I feel that I am a strong person. I’ve gain more self respect because I know that I don’t need to force myself to be with someone just for the sake of getting married.

For now, I just try to focus on more important things in life than looking for a life partner, because I have proven to myself that there is nothing really wrong with staying single. As long as you know what you want, and you are happy with your life, it’s okay. Go on, work hard for your dreams, travel, go out with friends, stay up late, wake up really late on rest days, buy the things you like with your own money. Live fully, and enjoy every moment. Love the people who loves you, like your family and friends, and cherish every moment spent with them. For someday, if it is really GOD’s will, it will all happen.

So, one time, when me and a good friend were discussing this topic, she asked me, have you ever been really, truly, madly inlove then? I said, “I’ve always been inlove, with so many things. But when it comes to relationships,no, not that head over heels, I will fight for it kind of love yet. When The right man comes, if ever he will come, I’ll make sure this time it’ll be worth the wait. I’ll know it, for sure.”

And, another question “have you really stopped looking for that special someone?!” I told her, yes, I’ve stopped looking, but I am praying for it. And there is a huge difference between those two, for now I believe that God’s plan will always be better than my own, so I’ll just let HIM do the searching for me..or who knows, God might have found him already for me, but is just waiting for the right time.